All posts tagged: lifestyle

Out of my comfort zone

I just got off the phone with my cousin who I haven’t spoken in two years. The conversation we had reminded me why I left my home-country. And also why we don’t talk much. You see, we have different goals in life. I’ve been working abroad over the past few years and facing new challenges almost every single day. My cousin never lived outside his village. He keeps telling me to “come home”, “find a job here”, “stay here”. To be honest, these words don’t warm my heart. I tried so many times to explain to him that the world outside is so much more than stereotypes, monuments and sunny spots. The world has so much more to offer: home sickness, uncomfortable places and a learning process about who you are. Through all these years I haven’t found a place where I would make myself a home so instead of chasing it, I’ve started to move around. I decided to live with other people, to share stories, to open myself to new possibilities and realize …

Immigration symptoms and its antidotes

We all start somewhere. Even after you’re born and you grow older, we all have new beginnings. When it comes to living somewhere new, I learned how to detect certain diseases/feelings/symptoms that were new to me at the time. So here’s some of them: The issue: Isolation The cure: Feeling 100% isolated can be really stressful. Especially if you don’t speak the language or you don’t feel identified with the culture. The first step to combat isolation is to go out. Explore for yourself, enjoy walking and the moments you create along the way. After you discover some places you like, I recommend trying an app called Meetup. Over there you can find different groups with common interests. Join the ones you like. It’s free. Meet people, hear their stories and also, share your struggles. Fighting isolation is not as difficult as it seems to be but I confess it can be a constant struggle (especially when people you meet are also moving somewhere else and so on). I can also recommend the couchsurfing platform. …

(How to) deal with anxiety

There are some studies who show that most funny people have a high level of emotional intelligence. I don’t categorize myself as being funny all the time, but it has been reminded to me that I make people laugh even when it’s not my intention to. I never understood exactly what this meant until some years later. I got to know my dark/sad/twisted/angry/negative side pretty well. I decided to get comfortable with it because it’s a part of everyone’s personality and it’s important to make the discomfort a productive time in your everyday life. Having high emotional intelligence doesn’t mean the generalization that you cry all the time. Also, it doesn’t mean that you’re a drama queen. It means something more than understanding complex emotional situations. You see, we all have a voice, but sometimes we cannot really hear it inside ourselves. There are so many reasons why this voice is numb or even confused; and it can take some time to release it. People diminish anxiety by default because sometimes they think it’s easy …

The things you discover

“Sometimes you just need a break up from routine.” This is the kind of statement we are used to hear all time, but never really practiced it. Until one day, one time, you’re sitting on an airplane about to go on a two-hour trip to your weekend destination and you think about all your first world problems and how in the end, nothing of that matters because you’re loved, you’re healthy and most of all, you’re so incredibly lucky to be exactly where you are. Alive. Life is not perfect and we should, all together, appreciate it a little more every time we step outside our doors. Without further ado, Merry Christmas everyone and have an excellent New Years Eve. Bring it on 2017.

Life lessons (or some of them)

Humans are complex creatures. There are many things you’ll keep improving all your life. Because the act of living is a constant act of learning. My family told me this last sentence all over again until it got into my head. As I grew up I understood more the depth of that truth. So I wrote an example list of work in progress statements (and some of them are lessons that were earned meanwhile): – Emotion is not a weakness. – Being polite is never enough to express a feeling. – Anxiety comes and goes like the weather. – People will always have opinions (either you like it or not). – Some people you’ve met in private will ignore you afterwards. – Food is love. – You can meet amazing people in unexpected places at unexpected times. – Some relationships will not matter. – Things will always get complicated unless you find the resources to stay within your truth. – Some people will care for you, but never love you for who you are. – …