All posts tagged: lifestyle

(How to) deal with anxiety

There are some studies who show that most funny people have a high level of emotional intelligence. I don’t categorize myself as being funny all the time, but it has been reminded to me that I make people laugh even when it’s not my intention to. I never understood exactly what this meant until some years later. I got to know my dark/sad/twisted/angry/negative side pretty well. I decided to get comfortable with it because it’s a part of everyone’s personality and it’s important to make the discomfort a productive time in your everyday life. Having high emotional intelligence doesn’t mean the generalization that you cry all the time. Also, it doesn’t mean that you’re a drama queen. It means something more than understanding complex emotional situations. You see, we all have a voice, but sometimes we cannot really hear it inside ourselves. There are so many reasons why this voice is numb or even confused; and it can take some time to release it. People diminish anxiety by default because sometimes they think it’s easy …

The things you discover

“Sometimes you just need a break up from routine.” This is the kind of statement we are used to hear all time, but never really practiced it. Until one day, one time, you’re sitting on an airplane about to go on a two-hour trip to your weekend destination and you think about all your first world problems and how in the end, nothing of that matters because you’re loved, you’re healthy and most of all, you’re so incredibly lucky to be exactly where you are. Alive. Life is not perfect and we should, all together, appreciate it a little more every time we step outside our doors. Without further ado, Merry Christmas everyone and have an excellent New Years Eve. Bring it on 2017.

Life lessons (or some of them)

Humans are complex creatures. There are many things you’ll keep improving all your life. Because the act of living is a constant act of learning. My family told me this last sentence all over again until it got into my head. As I grew up I understood more the depth of that truth. So I wrote an example list of work in progress statements (and some of them are lessons that were earned meanwhile): – Emotion is not a weakness. – Being polite is never enough to express a feeling. – Anxiety comes and goes like the weather. – People will always have opinions (either you like it or not). – Some people you’ve met in private will ignore you afterwards. – Food is love. – You can meet amazing people in unexpected places at unexpected times. – Some relationships will not matter. – Things will always get complicated unless you find the resources to stay within your truth. – Some people will care for you, but never love you for who you are. – …

Jobs and getting “there”

Jobs come in different forms and schedules. But every single one of them has a time frame in your life. The reward for your service is apparently converted into monetary appealing. After this process, you, the hard worker is the responsible for managing the money that you’ve earned. Being a creative human outside of the Hollywood industry, gives you a better sense of how to organize something with so little. You see, the trick is not to get sucked into buying things you don’t need. You also shouldn’t consume every entertainment product. It’s a waste of time. Be picky. Choose the information, entertainment and the art you want to get inspired by. Finally, be persistent. Organize yourself so wonderful things can happen (because you’ve worked hard for them) and then, you’ll grow out of it.

What nobody told me in school

The info on this post depends on your community background and also on where you studied. Back in the day in the early 2000’s I was just a kid starting to transition into a teenager. My conceptions about the world were very simplistic and in school, I was the average weirdo girl. My confidence was less than 0 but before you judge: yes, I was one of the bullied kids. No, I did not know what “bullying” meant at that time. No, I didn’t live my life depending on haters. Never. And that experience is still the perfect antidote to stay away from people with bad behavior. At this time, in school we got twice or (maybe) once a year a lecture about sexuality. It was a reminder for teenagers to use protection, have safe sex, that condoms prevent STD’s and other types of unpleasant things. The problem with these lectures was, in that time, the adults didn’t address other types of sex and how genders can be fluid. They didn’t explain gay sex or …